Becoming a Man of Zero
A live conversation with David Deida
THURSDAY · JULY 30 · 10:00 AM PT
There’s a lot of noise right now about what it means to be a man.
THE MANOSPHERE SAYS
Dominate.
More money. More status. More conquest. Harden yourself and take what's yours.
THE SPIRITUAL WORLD SAYS
Transcend.
Rise above desire. Dissolve the ego. Detach from wanting anything at all.
BOTH ASK YOU TO SUPPRESS SOMETHING REAL IN YOU
One says that your softness is a weakness.
The other ignores the very real fire inside you.
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There's a third place. Not dominance. Not transcendence. Zero.
The point before you start performing either one — grounded and awake, ambitious and free, fully in the world without being run by it.
This conversation is where you find it.
THURSDAY · JULY 30 · 10:00 AM PT
What if becoming more of yourself requires striving less?
Every man carries a picture of who he's becoming: steadier, more present, more powerful than the one living his current life.
David Deida calls the ground underneath that picture zero — not a lesser version of you, but the version of you before you started performing for anyone, including yourself.
This conversation is about why that man isn’t ahead of you. He’s underneath the striving, waiting for you to stop performing long enough to meet him.
Join David Deida and André Duqum live on July 30, 2026 at 10AM PT for a 90-minute conversation, followed by a community Q&A where you can bring your own questions—in a room of men committed to living in integrity and fulfilling their spiritual potential.
$29 includes the live conversation, community Q&A, and a free month inside the Know Thyself Collective.
Live July 30, 2026 · 10AM PT ·
Free month in the Know Thyself Collective
Who is David Deida?
David Deida is one of the most influential voices in masculine spirituality. His classic The Way of the Superior Man has sold over a million copies in 25 languages.
His new book, The Man of Zero, maps the exact territory of this conversation: what happens when the drive to win stops satisfying.
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“If you feel lost in the modern world, this book is a manual for men who are ready to start living from their deepest truth. David Deida’s wisdom is needed more than ever right now.”
—Chris Williamson, host of the Modern Wisdom podcast
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“David Deida lays out a challenge before all men to fulfill their true purpose and to be authentically masculine.”
—Tony Robbins, author of
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“Once again, David has brought his wisdom, experience, and exceptional teaching to another transformational book. Just like with The Way of the Superior Man 20 years ago, The Man of Zero has instantly become my new Bible.”
——Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy
What we'll explore together
Five conversations most men are having alone
Lead your own life
Stop running on fear and obligation. Feel what it's like to lead from love.
Ambition without attachment
Want what you want, fully — without needing it to prove anything about you.
When winning stops working
That flat "is this it?" feeling isn't failure. It's a doorway.
Depression, or emptiness?
One needs support. The other is the start of freedom. Learn the difference.
Sexual energy, without the drama
The same current as your creativity. Feel it fully, free of shame.
This isn't for every man. It might be for you.
This is for you if…
You've achieved real things and still feel a gap between who you are and who you could be
You're skeptical of "dominate everything" bro-culture and "dissolve everything" spiritual bypass
You've done the reading and listening, but you're doing it alone
You want depth, not another hack
You're ready to be honest about what isn't working, even though it looks like it's working
This might not be for you if…
You want someone to tell you you're already perfect and nothing needs to change
You're not willing to sit with an uncomfortable question for 90 minutes
You think inner work is for people who can't hack the real world
You're looking for quick fixes or "hacks"
You'd rather feel certain than feel true
FAQ
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No — and if that's what you're after, this isn't it. This conversation deliberately rejects both the dominate-everything and the dissolve-everything camps. It's for men who want to be strong and awake, without amputating either one.
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David Deida is a former UC medical-school researcher who writes with more precision than most self-help. This is grounded, direct, and practical — closer to straight talk about how to live than incense-and-affirmations. If you've read The Way of the Superior Man, you know the register.
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Yes. Every registrant gets the full replay, and your free month in the Collective is yours regardless. That said — showing up live for the Q&A is where the real value is, so block the [90 minutes] if you can.
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Absolutely. Some of the most meaningful seats in the room were bought by women for a partner, brother, or son they love. If you do, a small tip: send it as "I saw this and thought of you," not "you should really watch this." Men come to this work best when it feels like an invitation, not a verdict. You can register with his email so it lands directly with him, or forward him your own confirmation.